The Things on the Throne
Published on: 07/24/2026
The career isn't the problem. The relationship isn't the problem. The problem is what you've been asking them to be. Tozer had a precise name for it.
Identity

The career isn't the problem. The relationship isn't the problem. The problem is what you've been asking them to be. Tozer had a precise name for it.

The restlessness you feel isn't a problem to fix. Augustine called it a signal. The oldest one you have. And it's been pointing somewhere specific the whole time.

There's a story about a father who ran. Not to punish. Not to say "I told you so." Just — ran. It says something about the kind of love that actually answers the identity question.

I held faith at a distance for most of my life. What I eventually found wasn't comfort. It was something truer than what I'd been telling myself.